Why You Should Never Lose the Inner Child in You

Kemmy D
5 min readJul 16, 2019
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If you are reading this and would still groove to The Hampster Dance Song or Barney the Dinosaur even though it may make you cringe, you should have had a good childhood. Children (not teens) are mostly happy, and there are many reasons for that. You could say that they are forgetful, ignorant and mostly optimistic. Add a little bit of curiosity and you probably have the formula of a child’s happiness.

That leads us to a very interesting question: “Why are adults not happy?”. The answer is quite simple — because at some point in our lives, we all lost the child in us.

Why Did You Lose the Child In You?

The word ‘Adulting’ originated around 2008 and is now added to many contemporary dictionaries. Society construes anyone above 18 years old to be an adult, which means that they should pay their own bills, have their own place and pretty much set up a life for themselves. However, that is not very possible to achieve these days, especially at such a young age.

“The creative adult is the child who has survived” — Julian F. Fleron

Children are creative and they love to do what the like — the reason is that they never give a damn to what others think about them. However, when you enter your teens, you become very conscious of what others think about you. Then, you try to rebel and fight and get through the weird period of your life. After that, you realize it is time to do some adulting and poof — there goes your inner child.

This consciousness never allows you to express yourself, so you eventually try to become a people-pleaser. You channel all your thoughts and emotions and bottle it up to become the person you never were. In this process you lose what you originally were as a child and this is where it all fades away.

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“Childish” or “Child-like” is a term that is used by society to put adults down, but that doesn’t have to be the case. If someone tells that to me, I would take it as a compliment. Yes, I do not live all my life being childish or child-like. I work a full time job, own a car, a place, pay…

Kemmy D

Started writing for fun, now it's gotten quite serious. Sorry, Joker!